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"Embarking on a Healing Journey? Here are 5 Tips to Help Guide You"

Written by Kenisha F. (@breathewithkay)

Many of us have some aspect of our lives that require healing, but some may not know where to start. 

Whether you're navigating through emotional wounds, physical ailments, or simply seeking inner peace, embarking on a healing journey is a courageous step towards self-discovery and growth. 

If you are new to your healing journey, here are 5 tips that I have learned over the course of my healing journey that I hope will help guide you through yours.

If you have been on this journey for a while, these tips can serve as little reminders along the way. 


1. Be Gentle with Yourself 

Healing is not all sunshine and rainbows as some may lead us to believe.

It is equal parts light and dark.

Which means, you will experience bliss AND pain.  

When the days feel dark and heavy, and you feel you are not making progress, be gentle with yourself, because you are achieving more than you think.  

Healing is not linear. There is no straight path from start to finish. 

Be kind to yourself. You are unlearning and learning so many things.  

Being gentle with yourself can look like:  

  • Taking breaks when needed (more on this below)  

  • Forgiving yourself for past and present “mistakes” (as many times as you need)  

  • Talking kindly to your inner child 

  • Continuing to do things you enjoy to keep your spirits up 

2. Take Breaks If You Need To 

Give yourself permission to stop.

There will be times when your healing journey may feel more overwhelming than usual.

For example, therapy may feel like it’s draining you more than helping. Or you may begin to feel physically and mentally exhausted, so much so that you feel your nervous system disregulates at the thought of going to said therapy or engaging in your new healthy routines.   

When you feel this way, know it is MORE THAN OK to take a break. Healing is not a race.

It’s a journey you should take at a pace that is great for your growth and does not discourage you from continuing in the long run.  

A break can look like: 

  • Spacing out coaching/therapy sessions

    • (ex: move from 1x/week to 2x/month. Whatever feels good to you)  

  • Spacing out your journaling 

  • Shortening your meditation sessions 

  • PLAYING! (do things that feel fun and bring you joy) 

  • Sleeping more, as rest is essential 

  • Taking a break from social media

(Please note, there is also NO SHAME in halting everything for a bit rather than slowing down. But try to set an intention that this “halt” is meant to re-nourish your soul with the goal of returning to your journey when you are ready.) 


3. Keep Your Focus on Self

The internet is an amazing place to access many tools to support you on your healing journey, but it also gives you front row seats to see how other’s journeys are going. This, in turn, causes you to compare. Please remember, “comparison is the thief of joy.” 

No two journeys look or feel the same. It is impossible to know what someone is truly going through or what it took for them to get to where they are today. We only see what they choose to share.  

Comparing your journey to someone else's, or even comparing it to the stories you’ve made in your head about how it SHOULD go, can discourage you in the process.  

Keep your focus inward and know that as long as you keep doing the work, you are right where you need to be. 

4. Live in the Present

Your past can help guide you to your core wounds and what you need to “work on”, your future is a great source of inspiration for where you would love this journey to take you, but your present moment is the most important space to be. 

Learning to be in the “here” and “now” is an amazing tool to help keep you grounded and present throughout your journey. When we remain present, we have a more clear view on what actually IS rather than being weighed down by what was or what could be. 

Living in the present can look like: 

  • Practicing mindfulness

  • Incorporating breath-work exercises 

  • Doing grounding exercises whenever you feel your nervous system disregulating

  • Focusing on what is going good for you in this present moment

5. Become Friends With Your Fear

It’s important to note, no one is on this journey without fear.

They instead work BEYOND the fear and WITH the fear. 

Your fear may intensify the deeper you go into this journey, because you are entering the unknown. Your body is familiar with chaos, trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms and more. Because of this, those things feel safer than healing, because your body does not know what true inner peace feels like. 

Ways to work through fear can include: 

  • Speaking to your fear - “Thank you for being here. I know your job is to protect me. However, at this moment I am in no immediate danger. I am safe. I will take care of this. But please continue to show up for me in moments where it is absolutely necessary”

  • Be the observer of the fear rather than ‘feeling’ it – such as sitting with it to fully understand what it is trying to tell you.

  • Do the thing you feel scared of. Example: Take that hike. Sing that song even when others can hear. Dance even though someone is watching. Allow new opportunities in to your life. 

Congratulations on your journey!

It takes so much strength and bravery to dig this deep and allowing yourself the opportunity to transform your mind body and soul. Please remember — you are not alone.

You are so deserving of all that is coming to you, and you are doing AMAZING! KEEP GOING.

For more tools and tips on your journey, you can join my email list through this link.

Let’s grow together! 

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